Dear Readers,
Grief can be, for some, an extremely private process. So it is for me and my family.
I just wanted to let you know that I haven’t abandoned this blog. It’s just that I’m finding it hard to write amusing posts about arse worms or being called a Ukrainian Clown Whore at my own husband’s 40th birthday – not when people I love are suffering so much.
So please consider my silence to be an ellipsis. A pause in my speech.
In the meantime, while you’re all waiting for me to return, I’ll try make a weekly offering of either a photo for discussion or a post I’ve uncovered in the NDM vaults.
THIS WEEK’S OFFERING: “The Inadvertent Vibrator“.
Love from
The NDM.
I understand entirely. Take as much time as you need. Sending love. xx
You do not need to explain anything. We will be here when you are ready my love xx
Was thinking about you just this morning, thanks for the update. Don’t worry about us readers. Just be with your family, we’ll be here. Take care x
Thinking of you and your family.
Will wait as long as it takes. xx
Look after you and your fam, as for the interwebs….well, we can look after ourselves. Take good care NDM.
We are all here, and you are there, and we are sending warm thoughts. Welcoming and blog-reading arms will hug you back into the blogosphere when you are ready. Grief is a process – I wish none of us had to go through it. Many hugs to you.
You know we are all here standing beside you and if you ever need a shoulder or a sounding board we are here for you. Love and light gorgeous xx
Take your time. You are doing what you need to do, and we will be here when you are ready.
We all love you and will be here when you are ready. I wish for these for you and your family as you live this unimaginable loss…Grace. Courage. Strength. Love. xox
Take as much time as you need, grief and healing have no set guidlines. xxpt
We are missing you but completely understand. Break your silence only when you are ready. x
You’ve been in my thoughts, but I understand completely. We’ll be waiting for you with big hugs when you’re ready to come back …
Have you read ‘Love & Other Impossible Pursuits’ by Ayelet Waldman? It is a novel about overcoming grief. The protagonist loses her baby daughter to SIDS. It sounds full on but it might help you because it’s funny and really honest about emotions. It’s set in Manhattan and there’s lots of really good descriptive writing about the city. And there’s a lot of sex in it.
Have been thinking of you.
xxx
Thinking of you and your family NDM, and waiting patiently for your return.
NDM, what all the others said. Family first. We all love you, and will be here, when you’re ready to share your wonderful writing, again. Hugs, from me…..
mwah
you’re awesome
xo
Thinking of you as you negotiate this toughest of times. The blogosphere will never turn its back on you x
Everything that everyone before me has said. We love you NDM and shall herald your return with much fanfare. Much love to you and your family. xoxoxoxo
One step at a time NDM. Thanks for sharing your earlier post. Made me laugh. Big hugs to you and yours x
Sending thoughts your way to you and your family.
I had somehow missed your last post, so have only just read about your family’s loss. My warm thoughts and deepest condolences go out to all of you. Nothing can make such a sacrifice worthwhile, but we can only hope that some skerrick of peace and freedom comes to the people in that land where he fell, after so many lives have been lost in search of it.
We will be here waiting patiently and giving you all the time that you need.
We miss you but know you need this time. Also, know that you don’t need to be funny all the time to remain loved. Some of my favourite posts are your more poignant ones. Big hug coming your way.
Take the time you need and come back feeling stronger.
Love to you sweetheart.
You are a wonderful woman…and we are all here for you whenever you’re ready to come back!!
Take your time.
Thinking of you and your family
xx
This is my first visit to your blog fine lady, and now I don’t know what to make of your post. Because you see, my brother is in the Special Forces and has served one post in that dusty place and may yet be serving again. And so I write with tears in my eyes for your very real pain, when mine has only been imagined in my worst and most horrific imaginings.
What’s more, I too had been delaying making ANZAC biscuits for one of his mates who is currently over there, because I too, don’t have a printer to print off the damn recipe. I am about to write it out by hand.
Love to you and yours, I don’t know what else to say, Naomi xx
So sorry to hear your news. Wasn’t sure how to contact you (am new to this). No matter how I say this it will sound like a plug but I really don’t mean it to be, please read it as a genuine offer of help. A while back I lost my partner and wrote a book called 50 Ways To Grieve Your Lover. I’m blown away that it helped people in the Vic Bush Fires and NZ Pike Mine Disaster. So if I can be of any help let me know. Again this is a genuine offer of help as I’ve been involved with the ADF and totally value the huge service they give. I wish you and your family strength. Don’t forget to look after yourself so you can look after others. Glennys
Still thinking of you. Hope you’re doing well.
Funny, I think of you often, wondering how you and yours are weathering what can only be at times unbearable and otherwise just so so sad peppered with moments where everyone laughs and carries on as if this horrible horrible thing never happened. Until you all realise it did. I think – for completely different and far less important reasons – I am doing the same. Much is going on – my sad brain, the husband’s sudden and unexpected job loss, impending major surgery and so on and so forth – that I just can’t write about it anymore. It really is same shit, different month and I don’t want to be the trainwreck blog anymore. So for me maybe it is no blog at all.